Grace and courtesy lessons are given from the get go in a Montessori classroom. These lessons teach children how to interact with people and their environment in a respectful way. While these lessons are taught for the classroom they can easily extend outside to any situation in and outside the home. After all, we want our children to be respectful citizens of society. Some common lessons given are how to greet someone, interrupting politely, open and closing a door quietly, sit and stand up properly, tuck in a chair, and how to use courteous language.
We as adults should model this behavior in our every day life. Although a child can pick up so much by just observing us in every day life situations it's not a bad idea to have actual lessons/practice for these situations. For instance, you can role-play with your child on how to gain your attention appropriately. When I was in the middle of a lesson with another child, other children were taught to place their hand on my shoulder if I was sitting or on my hip if I was standing. They were shown how to stand quietly and patiently wait until I turned to address them. If I was at a place in a lesson where I couldn't stop, I would place my hand on that child's hand indicating that they needed to wait a bit longer until I could give him/her my attention. Through this process I am acknowledging the child's presence and teaching the child patience.
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Borrowed from Montessori Training |
Teaching your child the correct way to greet someone can be so beneficial for not only social but possible business encounters one day. When a child starts their day they are taught to greet their teacher, shake hands, make eye contact, and say a pleasant, "Good morning."
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Circle time is a great time to practice Grace and Courtesy lessons. |
Another lesson that can be given is how to use courteous language such as please, thank you, and you're welcome. You may have to enlist the help of another parent, friend, or older sibling to role-play. One way to do this is to sit at a set table with your "helper." Model one set of phrases at a time.
"Would you like some juice?" "Yes, please."
(Pour the water.) "Thank you." "You're welcome."
"Would you please pass the bread?" "Yes, here it is."
(Pass the bread.) "Thank you." "You're welcome."
After modeling all the phrases, switch out your "helper" for your child and repeat the process again. A child may not exemplify the phrases after one lesson but you can always make up another scenario to practice courteous language.